All parents want their child to listen to them the first time, but in reality, it is not possible. Before thinking that a child is not listening, one has to wonder if he understood the instructions and if the rules to follow are adapted to his age. It is also normal to have to repeat the same instruction several times before the child understands and obeys. In addition, the fewer rules and the easier it will be for a child to respect them. It will also be easier to follow the instructions if both parents apply them in the same way.
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Tracks to make you listen
As a parent, you are best placed to set the rules and enforce them. You do not have to negotiate with your child or justify yourself.
When your child is upset or focused on something, he may not listen to your instructions. The idea is to enjoy a moment when he is calm to explain the rules to follow. For example, after reading a book, you can ask him to put away his toys.
To get your child’s attention, stand up to him and look him in the eye to talk to him. It is sometimes necessary to touch his shoulder or hand to get his full attention. You can then clearly express your request and say, for example: “Amelie, look at me. Your bath is ready and I would like you to come with me. ”
Empower your child. The more your child learns to be responsible, the more he understands what is good and bad. If he hurts his little brother, you can bring him to make a “repair” gesture, like hug him or lend him a toy.
When your child makes a “bad move”, it may be to get your attention. Do not wait until he does something stupid to give him time. It is best to pay attention to your toddler when he behaves well. Receiving congratulations every time he obeys him encourages him to continue.
the corporal punishment (type, slapping, pinching, shaking, etc.) are not forms of discipline effective. It’s humiliating, it hurts, in addition to giving the child the feeling that he has no value. A regularly injured child is more likely to be violent with other children and later with adults.