Housework helps children learn to organize their time, have responsibilities, set goals, and learn skills. When they help their parents, toddlers feel great and helpful, which helps build their confidence. therefore, It is appropriate to involve children in the tasks of the house. They may even enjoy it!
How to motivate children?
Children can start doing small tasks very early. Even a toddler can put dirty clothes in the basket reserved for this purpose and put away his toys. Here’s how you can encourage your child to participate in household chores.
Young children often want to “help” their parents and do the same things they do. The sooner you become accustomed to doing small tasks, the more likely it will be to keep this good habit. Even if you have not yet participated in family chores, it’s not too late to start.
- Ask your toddler to become your assistant if he asks for your attention when you prepare the meal or bend clothes, for example. At around 18 months, he can start playing the “assistant” to help you do certain tasks.
- Try to avoid stereotyping activities. Boys may like to cook or do dishes, and girls learn to tinker and clean the garden.
- Do not forget to combine pleasure with chores. Play music, dance, and joke while you perform your tasks. This will teach your child that supportive feelings and collective work go hand in hand.
- Turn chores into play. If you want your child to tidy his room, ask him: “Do you want to play at the store?” You could be a toy seller. But before, the toys must be well placed on the shelves for the customers to see them well. You will, of course, have to play a few minutes and ask your “salesman” to find the toys that make you want to, but the storage routine will have been enjoyable. Also, try to challenge him. For example, tell him, “How many toys can you put away in 30 seconds? Similarly, if you need help in the kitchen, offer your child to be your assistant. He will find it fun to play a role and help you.
- Stay patient and be aware that your child will take longer than you to complete a task. Explain to him what you are doing (eg, “See, I put the glass here, and the utensils there.”). Ask one thing at a time and avoid being too demanding. Your toddler might be discouraged if it’s too difficult.
- Thank your child warmly every time he helps you. He will be happy to hear that his help has been helpful and will encourage him to start again.
- Avoid “buying” your child to give you a hand. Instead, let him understand that for a family to work well, everyone must do their part. Tell him that chores should be his way of helping his family. If you want to give your preschooler pocket money, do it to teach him how to understand and manage the money, not to thank him for taking on chores.
By having him work with family at a young age and gradually increasing his responsibilities, you make him do not consider chores as painful. If you and your partner have been able to divide the work between you, it will make things easier: your child will see both of you put your hand into the house to “turn the house”.
What tasks by age
Before 3 years
- Put away his toys. At first, your child will need your help. Little by little, you can let him do a little more.
- Find similar socks among those coming out of the dryer so you can assemble them.
- Fold washcloths and make a pile.
- Put your boots or shoes next to the front door.
- Hang your coat on a hook that is up to it.
- Clean the table or other objects with a damp cloth.
- Put a waste in the trash.
- Wash vegetables, tear lettuce leaves, pour ingredients into a bowl.
- Place books in a library low enough.
Between 3 years and 5 years
- Put away his toys.
- Put dirty clothes in the laundry basket.
- Lay folded clothes in a drawer within reach.
- Put dirty dishes on the counter near the sink.
- Measure the dry ingredients of a recipe, pour into a bowl and mix.
- Help set the table by placing utensils and napkins.
- Clear the balcony with a small shovel, if the amount of snow is small.
- Sweep the broom under the table after the meal.
- Water the plants under your supervision.
Tasks: when they are not done
Your child will not always want to run: sometimes, it will be a real chore for you to have him participate in chores! What if he does not roll up his sleeves as agreed?
- Give him a reasonable amount of time to complete his tasks to make things easier for everyone. Give him complete freedom to finish them on his own at the appointed time. Avoid scolding him all the time to get into it.
- If the chores are not finished at the appointed time, do not attack yourself to the task , otherwise you would send him the following message: “You do not really have to do your chores unless you want to, because, if you do not buy it, mom or dad will do it for you! “
- If a chore needs to be repeated because it was not done well the first time, gently and patiently insist that your child take the time to start it right again.
- Explain that everyone should be involved in household chores so that family life goes well.
- To motivate him, encourage him by telling him that you will do an activity he likes when he is done.
Remember that for a child to be responsible for chores without having to constantly remind him of his tasks, it must be done early, between the ages of 3 and 5. You also have to be patient because learning can take a few years. In other words, we do not wait until he has already reached adolescence!